I say have your private wedding ceremony and have the reception for everyone to celebrate your union. Due to visa and legal stuff, we're gonna have a small private ceremony at a courthouse and then have a really short like 5-10 min ceremony at our larger "wedding" months later when we can afford it. 1919 Connecticut Ave NW I would send out 2 invitations - one for the ceremony and one for the reception. Hay-Adams You could still register, but you would NEVER, EVER, EVER send the information out to anybody with an invitation. If people don't know what to get you...they will resort to money or gift cards. However, before you make the decision to keep things intimate, ask yourselves this: "Will we look back and regret the fact that everyone we love didn't get to see us seal the deal?" Love Airways- Flat Tea-length Wedding Invitation Private ceremony, same day reception The wording on this invitation is for reception-only {same day private ceremony}. Plus it's not their wedding. Then it’s time to wrap up your ceremony and move onto the reception to party! And you can't invite anyone to a shower who isn't invited to the so-called private wedding. It’s the perfect secluded and private wedding venue. Did you have a small ceremony but a big reception? 3) The couple openly shared a video of their wedding/vows during the beginning of the reception. Yes, I know I will get a rain of thumbs-down on my answer. The party invitation should read "In celebration of Mary and John's Wedding on July 1, 2010". You can only have A RECEPTION on the day you are married. Nobody is required to provide a gift of any sort if they miss the exchange of vows, so even if putting registry info on the invite was ok - which it isn't - you shouldn't have a registry in the first place. Is it still ok to have a wedding shower? Hilton Washington Jessica and Mark Denton. Send the reception invites to everyone else leaving out the attached note about the private wedding. It is o.k. However, it's inevitable that your decision will make some other people unhappy. I'm kind of peeved because she insulted my engagement ring when I got engaged. for the shower hostesses to list at the bottom of the shower invitation where you are registered as this is a help to a lots of people, but do not put specific items. Here's how to cushion the blow: Have your ceremony videotaped and set up a TV at the reception so guests can catch the highlights. 2. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement (updated 1/1/20) and Privacy Policy and Cookie Statement (updated 1/1/20) and Your California Privacy Rights. People will still throw your showers. You can sign in to vote the answer. How does that work? You can have A PARTY or you can have A CELEBRATION but you can not have A RECEPTION two days or two weeks or two months after your wedding day. How far after would the reception be from the ceremony? Here's how to cushion the blow: Have your ceremony videotaped and set up a TV at the reception so guests can catch the highlights. We want to have a private wedding out of state then come home and have a large reception with all our family and friends. Any wedding showers given by family (aunts or cousins) and friends would be acceptable and very nice:however, the Mother of Bride and Groom should not host wedding showers, also very bad etiquette. If you don't think so, then go for the smaller ceremony. No, you shouldn't have a shower. (For example, "You are cordially invited to the reception celebrating the marriage of..."). NEVER include where you register on your invitation. However, I did attend the small reception held a few weeks later. Unfortunately, I could not attend for financial reasons. Former wedding consultant. We'd like to have a small ceremony but a big reception. what should the invitations say? If they can't come, then OK. Then, invite them to celebrate with you when you return and show them the video of the vows. Is that OK? ", Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant. I would invite everybody to the wedding and to the reception all on the same invitation.Most people won't be able to make the ceremony since it is out of state, so it can still be a small wedding. The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except with the prior written permission of Condé Nast. Recessional. But, I declined the invite. Celebrity Engagement Rings and Wedding Bands, 25 Wedding Hairstyles Inspired by Our Favorite Celebrities, © 2020 Condé Nast.